"Love is a Moment"

"Question: I haven't been feeling very loving. I am trying to get clear what I want. I expect a lot of myself and that closes my heart. How do I deal with that?

Sharmaji: If you love someone, ask that person to sit by your side. Don't have any opinions or agenda. Don't judge them. Just sit quietly with that person. Something will flow from them to you.

Question: I just can't do it. It is a nice idea. How do you do it?

Sharmaji: Just sit.

Question: What if I am still sitting 10 to 20 years from now?

Sharmaji: Then something very beautiful will happen. If we can just have this approach something very beautiful will happen. When we are critical about the person we love, then we can never love anyone. You will always remember their angry and inconsiderate behavior. That is why I say if you suffer from amnesia, you are the greatest lover. Love is a moment. It is not your life.

Question: Are you advocating love without romance?

Sharmaji: All romance is an idealization of love which we create for our own benefit, so it doesn't exist. Every real situation can become a romantic situation. The greatest romantic situation is to sit with your lover very quietly. You can't imagine how the hours will fly by. What can be more romantic than that? It is very real. Without romance love is nothing. It is not to idealize love. It is to find that ideal in every moment."

Dayavrat Sharma, Love Without Pain, Chapter 14, pages 31-34

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